Dear Ed,
I finally read your article about Sam.
It was beautifully written and your kudos are well deserved.
I know people thrive on the Dido/Sam love story so I don't blame you for perpetuating it, but it is amazing how you and so many others have completely ignored the fact that Dido died 9 years ago and Sam had quite a full life since then. Yes, it was traumatic that she died but Sam kept on living.
Are we nothing, those of us who had filled Sam's life for the past 9 years?
KD
His reply:
Hey kd. I've wondered how you were doing, worried, actually. but didn't want to be intrusive. Grief is a weird and personal thing, and people's attempts to help actually do harm in some cases. I wanted to respect your place.
Sam, was you know, was many things to many people. You knew a Sam from a particular period, and you knew that Sam probably better than anyone. I was privvy to when he first announced that you were totally amazing and that he was in love - the band that fizzled and enabled The Sams to do their considerable thing. I know he had a deep love for you, and you should cherish that always.
His love with dido was different. he all but stopped playing during much of his time with her - the only time he had ever done that. he had pretty much had it with the biz, and was content to be domestic -Sam style.
He had a full life, no question, one of the fullest I've ever seen. That's one reason why I do not begrudge him his exit. He lived life his way, so it was up to him to write the final chapter the way he wanted. But he was a vastly different Sam, neither better, nor worse, just different in many.
I will miss him, greatly. There was only one Sam. And he thought the world of you.
peace. e.
Ed's Article: Beautiful/Worth Reading/Maddening to KD
